Through my own self-discovery of recognizing that I can fill up my own cup and care for myself, my whole world started to expand. I began to recognize what my needs were, and then I took action to fill those needs. I started to feel this abundance for living, and this intense love. For the first time in my life, I had compassion for myself.
Four pregnancies in three years really forced me to stop taking on everyone else’s expectations…
I had always been the nice girl, the good girl, the straight A’s girl, and the Valedictorian, but I was no longer making ‘conventional decisions in my life. I got married at 18 and started my family just a few years later.
The ‘conventional’ thing for a Valedictorian to do would be to go on to college and not get married – so there was a little bit of rebellion there already. It was me beginning to say, “Well that’s what you want me to do, but here’s what I’m really going to do.” When you start listening to yourself and stop doing things that make everyone else happy, you find a certain freedom.
A freedom to stop being the nice girl – the good girl – and embrace your inner masculine.
Yep, I was the way-too-good-girl. Straight A’s. Hometown pageant queen. Cheerleader. Rule follower. Bawled my eyes out when a teacher scolded me. Bawled my eyes out when my band instructor threatened my perfect GPA with an A minus. Living in perfection had me hiding my pain. It felt like I could only be one or the other, good or bad. I had chosen my side and had to maintain my facade.
Seriously, Steena, get over yourself!
I was the perfectionist who chose another path. I chose the one thing I thought I could never fail at… being good. Honestly, I liked it that way. I liked doing things well. As a Leo, I liked being celebrated. As a grown woman, I’ve seen that doing things well and celebrating myself according to my soul, does not equate to doing things the ‘right way’ according to anyone else. I had to forge my own path and find my own truth.
I’ve come to know that I am simply human and that even the ‘good girls’ need a little bad.
I’ve watched the ‘right way’ crumble before me. I’ve seen how my most valiant efforts have failed to produce perfect outcomes and left me with empty hands and a grieving heart. I’ve come to realize there’s more to life than perfection. Even the bad and painful things are an important part of life, and an initiation from the ‘good girl’… into womanhood.
Make Yourself A Priority
Making yourself a priority comes from self-awareness. I eventually learned that self-awareness is more important than perfection. When we are clear as to what we do want, we are clear on where to say “No” in our lives without the drama. We are then able to say “No” to distractions and compromises. This allows us to be proactive rather than reactive.
Own Your Power
The energy of stepping into our sexual power is about waking ourselves up. Allowing sexual energy to move through our bodies allows us to own our power. Intimate touch isn’t errotic and inappropriate. Nursing a baby is a great example of expressing our sexuality. It’s a clear energy of what brings us pleasure. Penetration and reception is part of clear communication. Asking permission and sharing where we stand, gives everyone freedom of choice.
Bio: Author Steena Marie started out life as the good girl… living up to everybody else’s standards. This looked like being the beauty queen, valedictorian, and cheerleader. Steena’s inner rebel began to appear when she got married at eighteen and had a baby within her first year of marriage, two miscarriages, and another child by age twenty-three. Her deep journey of personal discovery led her to stepping into a different type of motherhood and finding her inner masculine.
Steena is like the sassy best friend who makes you wish you had a bleep out button in the middle of the coffee shop. That’s not how she would have described herself a few years ago. Steena teaches the art of sexy, sacred success on your own terms. This knowledge required a deep release of fear, shame, and perfectionism. Steena blends deep energy alchemy and soul work that supports and awakens her clients voice as well as their inner
Message to her younger self: Don’t take your first marriage too seriously… it’s just an exercise in clarifying what you want in the second one.
Her famous quote: “We are rising out of the old paradigm of patriarchal rule and into a new era of empowerment where the feminine and masculine join in communion.” ~Steena Marie
Her famous mantra: Scrap the pattern and design your own life.
Her POV: Own both parts of you and worship HER.
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